Do you hate making mistakes and failing in front of everyone?
Are you afraid of falling and getting embarrassed?
Do you worry about letting other people down and disappointing everyone?
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? How much faster could you make progress in your sport?
FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES, DISAPPOINTING AND LETTING PEOPLE DOWN
Most athletes are afraid to make mistakes. If you’re like me and the rest of the bunch you want to show what you are capable of.
Whether that’s in a contest or when you’re training you want to impress people, right?
It’s coded in the human psyche to look up to people who are admired by others and who’ve achieved great things and then do it yourself.
We all want to be respected.
That’s why you nobody likes letting other people down who expect you to do well.
Fear of letting your friends, family, coach, sponsors or yourself down can lead to getting paralyzed and underperforming.
Focusing on what you don’t want to have happen instead of visualizing what you want to have happens primes your body to fail. The opposite is true just as well.
IF YOU DON’T TRY YOU CAN’T SUCCEED
Fear of making mistakes can lead to second guessing, freezing and getting injured.
It can lead to not trying or fully committing. And if you don’t try you’ll never succeed.
If you didn’t let go of the idea that you need to know how to do it you’d never go for the things you really want to achieve.
Of course you don’t know how to do things until you’ve tried them out. You learn by doing and making mistakes.
You try learning new tricks or winning the contest and if you don’t you go back to the drawing board. You use it as an opportunity to get to the next level by analyzing it.
FAILURE IS NOT OPTIONAL, IT IS MANDATORY
To succeed you must fail. And you are likely to do it a lot.
You fail now to win later. Failure is an integral part of succeeding. You can’t succeed without making mistakes.
Winners are better at failing than most people. They understand that the obstacle that caused them to fail is a problem they discovered which you now have the opportunity to solve and use it as a stepping stone to make progress.
The best athletes have not just failed more than others, they’ve failed smart.
Every failure, every mistake is an opportunity to grow and learn from. But you only learn when you stop for a moment and listen to what lesson the failure has to teach you.
Failure is anything but a negative thing even though your brain and people around you might tell you that.
When you understand that failure is not a bad thing but the necessary thing for you to get to the next level that’s when mistakes become opportunities in disguise that you can seek out and leverage.
This is one of the most powerful questions that leads to making significant progress and I’d like you to write down your answer on your journal. Use this when you feel frustrated, stuck or are struggling:
What do I need to change in myself in order to solve this problem?
PAIN IS YOUR COMPASS
The modern world teaches us to avoid pain in any way possible. When we feel pain (physical or mental) we run away from it and medicate ourselves with drugs, alcohol, porn, food, candy, anything that gives instant gratification.
The human brain is programmed to avoid pain and seek for pleasure. But growth does not come from feeling comfortable.
Learning happens at the edge and outside your comfort zone. In order to become the best you can be and learn new tricks, moves and maneuvers you’ll be smart to learn how to get used to discomfort.
When you are frustrated, when you are making mistakes, when you fail and everything is going to shit, it’s time to pause and reflect.
“How can this misfortune help me make progress?”
What can you learn from your mistakes?
Most athletes keep repeating their mistakes because they avoid pain and don’t stop to listen and analyze their mistakes.
“The man who doesn’t correct a mistake makes another.”
Use frustration as your guide.
It shows you the wall that blocks you from making progress.
Use the MG180X Fail Up method as much as possible. When you fail at a contest, when you make mistakes while trying new or old tricks, moves or maneuvers. Or when you feel stuck.
1. What went well? What did I do right here? (What do you need to do more?)
2. What didn’t go well? (What do you need to do less or not at all?)
3. What do I need to do differently?
FAIL YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS
My most successful clients are athletes who take action. I’d like you to put what you’ve learned into practice and let the results show you the way.
If you have yet to get a notebook that you dedicate to your growth go ahead and do that and write your answers for the two questions below in your journal:
1. What is the next step in your progress you know you need to take that you have unconscious resistance to?
2. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
I look forward hearing your progress and your thoughts so feel free to leave a comment below.